Monday, February 1, 2016

January Recap, February Goals & Crabby Behavior

Sorry for the later post, I was totally pooped after beginning to tackle painting our guest room this weekend and just didn't have it in me to write a blog post last night.  Plus I got so caught up in watching Grease Live that nothing else existed last night.  ;)  Did anyone else watch it?  I had a few quibbles with it, but overall it was fairly cute.

I wanted to do a small recap about January and close out the month.  Just as a refresher, my goals for January were to do 15-30 minutes a day on my stair stepper and also eat 5 servings of fruits and vegetables a day.  While I was not perfect this month (there were probably about 6 days where I didn't do the stepper), I am really pleased overall.  I did stop counting my fruits/vegetables after a point because once I got back into tracking my food, cooking dinner at home just about every night and faithfully packing my lunches for work, I naturally started consuming well over 5 servings a day.  Now I'm fully back in the habit of including an apple, orange, cup of pineapple or another favorite fruit with every breakfast, a lunch either filled with veggies or veggies and fruit on the side, and a dinner with at least 1 if not 2 vegetable components.  And I'm not too bummed about the stair stepper thing, we walk at least a mile every day at work and sometimes walk up to 3 miles, so I've definitely gotten my activity in one way or another every day.

As far as February I have to be honest, the month kind of snuck up on me and I didn't really create any goals.  This will sound lame but even after thinking about it, I am fine with not having specific goals beyond making sure I am keeping up with MyFitnessPal and making sure I get daily activity.  I feel like what I'm doing is working well and I feel happy, so I'm not going to stress too much about having some specific lofty goal to hit.  I may revisit that in March, but let's just say that February will be about continuing to strengthen my healthy habits that I've worked so hard to reestablish.

So hopefully she won't mind me talking about this since it was said in the "safe space" of our ladies group, but I feel like the message of this will benefit the greater good.  One of our awesome members did a very normal, sensible thing at lunch today, she brought her running clothes and did a run on her lunch hour, which is fantastic right?  Unfortunately when she came back in she could hear her coworkers snickering and making fun of the fact she did this cool, healthy thing during her lunch hour.  Hearing this story made my blood boil honestly, so I wanted to talk about it and offer support to anyone else in a similar situation.

We've all had this type of thing happen at one time or another right?  The subject of weight loss seems to bring out the worst in some people.  Besides the fact that everyone suddenly feels entitled to comment on and critique your eating habits/workout methods (which it's like where the f*ck where you when I was binge eating, feeling worthless and getting myself to well past an obese BMI?), some people get this weird jealousy/sour grapes thing about it.  As I told the girl in our group today, I frankly think that some people are threatened when someone in their social circle takes steps to improve their health.  Deep down it makes them feel guilty because they know it's something they should be doing as well, so they tend to project their bullshit onto you.  Example:  Say you and some friends go out to lunch.  They all order their meals (burgers and other high caloric fare), but since you plan to indulge later that night with a glass of wine and your favorite type of cookie, you decide to order a grilled chicken salad to level out your intake for the day.  Immediately the comments start.

"Ug are you really just going to order a salad?  Now you're making me feel bad!"
"I'd shoot myself if that's all I ever ate!"
"Thank God I know how to enjoy real food and don't eat like a rabbit."
"You've been working so hard lately, just live a little!"

These types of people are known as having the "crab in a bucket" mentality.  If you put a bunch of crabs in a bucket they could easily escape, however once a crab makes it to the top the others have a tendency to drag it back down into the bucket due to territory issues.  When people make these comments it's to try to drag you back into the bucket of unhealthy habits.  Pretty shitty huh?  So don't let people do that to you!  Thankfully I'm surrounded by incredibly supportive people and also must have a more pronounced bitchy resting face as I get older, so people don't really bother me about what I eat and what exercise I do anymore.  I am past the point where crab mentality would bother me, but I know it's hard when you're just starting out, so I just wanted to tell people that if you run into this behavior from people just ignore it and move on.  Don't let people drag you back into the bucket!

8 comments:

  1. Here's to escaping the bucket despite those pesky crabs! I am super proud of our lovely lady and I know others can/will rise above that negativity too :) I think it is great that you are not stressing over having some lofty February goal...when things are clicking I don't think you need to add something new just because it is a new month. And I agree it is wise to revisit that in March just as a safeguard that you are still on track. Super proud of you too :)

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    1. Yeah I'm not feeling anxious about weight loss right now and I'm loving it! I feel like everything is clicking and going well, so I'm just kind of rolling with it.

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  2. Women can be so catty to each other; I think that's one of the things that makes our group so special, that there is none of that stupid cattiness! I love your "goal" of not having a goal... I think I'm going with that one this month too!

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    1. Our group is the first time I've felt accepted by a group of women and don't feel fearful talking to you guys. Women are horrible to each other, it's crazy. So thankful for our group!

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  3. Good grief. It amazes me that anyone should put so much hostile effort in to judging what your lovely lady does on her lunch break. Does immaturity never go away with some people? Tell her to ignore them and if they are hell bent on acting like junior high school bitches, that's their problem. Snickering? Making fun of an adult woman as an adult woman to another adult? Can you imagine spending any effort at all on something as petty as that? Talk about having nothing going on in your own life. Sad. Just truly sad. And you are right on. Those women obviously feel guilty or bad about themselves and don't like that she is bringing it to their attention when they try so hard to suppress it.

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    1. Isn't that insane?! I just about had a stroke when she told us what happened, but I'm telling you, the subject of weight loss makes people go absolutely bananas. I frequent a couple of Reddit forums on weight loss and you wouldn't believe some of the stories people tell about comments from coworkers, just the horrible rudeness and blatant jealousy they experience. Thank God no one I work with is like that!

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  4. Crab in a bucket is absolutely right! I've come across more than my fair share of people like this unfortunately. You're right - we just have to learn to ignore it.

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