We've all seen the "real women have curves" type memes. Case in point:
My friend Meg already discussed this in one of her posts in regards to another article, but now I have to chime in due to the flap about the SI issue. I'm getting tired of this "real woman" debate, it's becoming both stupid and harmful, and it makes us ladies look awfully childish. Look, Ashley Graham (the plus sized model in question) is beautiful. Miranda Kerr is also beautiful. As far as I can tell neither are cyborgs, so they are both real women. Thin women are real women. Big women are real women. We're all women.
I just hate the insanity and infighting that women inflict on themselves, it's honestly why I prefer being around men and always have. After being tormented by girls all through school, but wholeheartedly accepted into the fold of my guy friends, I quickly learned the lesson that the people who were going to be mean to me about my weight/clothes/hair were girls. The boys didn't care and accepted me as is. We say men have created this ideal of beauty, but could they have done it without the consent of women? For the most part they don't get involved in or perpetuate the "real woman" debate. We do. What if we women banded together and just said "Look, a woman who loves herself and is comfortable in her own skin is a real woman"? What if we were confident enough to look at someone like Emily Ratajkowski or Mila Kunis and say "She is really beautiful and sexy, and so am I. Yay us!" What if the permanent beauty trend was to quit with the "real women" horseshit and just go be the best/healthiest/most confident version of you, while also celebrating that's not the only way to be. What a nice place that would be to live in.
There will always be preferences. Yes, some men prefer very slim women. Plenty of men are fine with and want plus sized women. Those are individual preferences. We women have preferences too. Some women drool over Channing Tatum, I happen to think he's not attractive at all and would pick someone like Mark Ruffalo 500 times over him were I a single lady. That's my preference. Let's not mistake preferences with ideals or some kind of beauty law, or condemn people for liking what they like.
And because I love when men have a bit of cheeky fun, this made me laugh like hell because it's no different than those "men don't want a skeleton" memes out there. Seriously people, stop making skinny vs real memes.
Bottom line, let's love and prefer whatever "type" we love and prefer, while we recognize that all types are valid. Most of all...love and prefer yourself. Being confident is sexy. Liking who you are is sexy. Being kind, loving, accepting and nonjudgmental towards others is sexy. Lead the way and spread the revolution!